10 Ways Your Closet is Sabotaging Your Self Esteem

Does how you feel about yourself keep you from clearing the clutter in your closet? As an organizer, I see many closets with clothing that has not been worn in years, undergarments that don’t fit properly, and clothes that are either too small or too big. How you see yourself has a lot to do with why you may be paralyzed to make any changes in your closet. These simple tips will get you motivated to begin transforming you and your closet.

CLOTHING BRANDS FIT DIFFERENTLY

 The size you wear in one brand can be totally different in another brand. Understanding this is huge because so many women think that if they are a size 10 in one brand they should be a 10 in all brands and there is nothing further from the truth. So be kind to yourself and don’t just buy one size across the board because you will end up with clothes that don’t fit and are never worn.

INVEST IN NEW UNDERGARMENTS

I can’t say this enough get fitted properly for new undergarments. It can really change the way your clothes fit and how you feel about yourself. Purge undergarments that are not flattering or have seen better days. Regardless if you are the only one to see your undergarments it will make you feel better about how you look and feel in clothes.

LET GO OF “USED TO” CLOTHES

Don’t keep clothes that make you feel bad about yourself when you see them. I call those “used to” clothes because that is how clients describe them to me. Looking into your closet and seeing items that “used to” fit only reinforces negative thoughts and low self-esteem. Your wardrobe should be about who you are today not yesterday!

REMOVE EVERYTHING TO SEE CHANGE

If you want to see real change when you are cleaning out your closet remove everything. It really is the only way to see what you own and what you want to keep. I like to use a garment rack to make the process a bit easier because it allows you to see what you own. Three simple rules to follow when deciding what to keep I like this and will wear itdoesn’t fit and I don’t like it, maybe but I need to try it on. It’s that easy don’t overthink it.

KEEP A LIST

Make a list of items you need to replace as you let go of the old. It is the easiest way to keep track of what you need without overbuying. 

STICK TO NEUTRALS 

If you want a closet that is easy to work on a daily basis it helps to stick to neutrals. Black, white, cream and splashes of color in your accessories and shoes will make planning what you are wearing so simple. 

STRIPES, FLORALS AND POLKA DOTS

Now, let’s discuss patterns. They are great for some people but for others, it may be the reason you have items in your closet that are never worn. Stripes, florals and polka dots can be fun to wear but do you feel good when you wear them? If the answer is no, let them go. Simplicity is not boring just easy.

ENLIST HELP

If you feel like you cannot tackle your closet without help you are not alone. A professional organizer can help you make decisions you are unable to make. They will give honest opinions by asking questions and motivate you to keep moving forward to attain your goal.

YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD

Age seems to always play a role when purging clothes in a closet. Although you may not wear mini skirts any more wear what makes you feel comfortable and confident. Buying “you should” clothes, also known as clothes people think you should wear for your age, can make you feel bad about yourself and take up valuable space in your closet.

SAY GOODBYE TO THE PAST

Even in clothing, it can be hard to leave the past behind. Holding onto clothes that no longer reflect who you are and the stage of life you are in is keeping you and your closet living in the past. Embrace the body you have today and build your wardrobe with the items you love!

Cleaning out your closet can be a challenge when you begin the process. There may be some unexpected emotions that arise but once you purge the old you can move forward and enjoy the new you and who you are today. Try it, the results can be life-changing!

Photo: Julie Ryan Photography

Organize Your Dorm with Neatly Designed and Amazon Prime

1. Mini Fridge  2. Power Strip  3. Drawer Organizer  4. Jewelry Organizer  5. Over-The-Door Shoe Organizer  6. Steamer  7. 3 Drawer Organizer  8. Printer  9. Light Up Vanity Mirror  10. Hangers 11. Drawer Storage

Are you getting ready to go to college and need help getting organized? Small spaces can be a challenge, especially in a dorm room. These are some of my favorites on Amazon Prime which means fast delivery.

A Mini-Fridge is first on my list because it’s nice to have a place to keep some of your favorite foods. It also has a hidden handle so it’s easy to carry which you will appreciate when the elevators are crowded and you have to take the stairs. A power strip is essential when sharing a space with limited outlets. This one allows you to charge multiple devices with USB ports and traditional outlets. These drawer inserts are inexpensive and will keep drawers neat and organized which can be a challenge when you live in a dorm. This jewelry organizer looks great, allows easy access and keeps necklaces tangle-free.

I always remind people to use the back of the doors when living in small spaces. This shoe organizer will give you added storage for shoes and more room in your closet. A steamer can be a lifesaver when you need to quickly get the wrinkles out. It stores easily and is lightweight. This is great to store makeup, hair accessories, dental, contacts or any other items you want to keep organized with easy access.

This printer is a favorite not only because it is inexpensive but it looks great sitting on a dorm room desk. A makeup mirror is important when sharing bathroom space with others. This is lighted and has an area to keep all of your makeup essentials. These hangers really do make a difference when it comes to saving space. Small closets will look larger and organized by using matching hangers. Extra drawer space is a premium in small spaces and this is easy to assemble and gives you the added drawers under your short hanging or in a room. It’s also easy to move and use again in your new space.

Dorm living can be an adjustment but if you keep it simple and make it your own with some of your favorite things you will be surprised how quickly you adjust! If you want to see more of my favorites visit my storefront on Amazon.

Five Reasons You Won’t Let Go of Clutter

As an organizer, I try to reassure clients that they are not alone. I can say it with confidence because I often hear the same reasons people can’t get rid of items. Most people have good intentions when it comes to tackling clutter but when emotions get in the way it can be very difficult. Do any of these keep you from clearing the clutter in your own home?

Guilt
Guilt is the number one reason people hold onto items they no longer need, use or want. The feeling of guilt is often misguided when it comes to clutter. Your home should be a place to come home to at the end of the day that is peaceful and free of clutter. If guilt prevents you from letting go of something think about how that affects you and your environment. Guilt is not a reason to keep something, if you don’t love it, use it or need it, let it go!

Regret
Regret and “what if” go hand in hand. What if I need this later? What if I find the missing part? Do you say to yourself I may need that but in reality you never do? Regret in any area of your life is not healthy but especially when it comes to clutter. Once you simplify you will be amazed how little regret you have to worry about in your home.

Financial
Paying a lot of money for something is not a reason to keep it. If you own expensive shoes but they hurt your feet every time you wear them consign them and say goodbye. Your home should only have items you need, use and love, even if you paid a lot of money for it!

Gifts Received
Gifts people receive but don’t use, like or want is another big reason for clutter in the home. Holding onto an item because you might hurt someone’s feelings, you fear what someone will think or out of guilt as we discussed earlier can prevent you from living a simple clutter-free life. Just because someone gives you a gift does not mean you need to keep it. If you don’t use it, like it or need it, let it go.

Children
Is your home becoming a storage unit with the hope someone will want something one day? Many people hold onto items with the thought their adult children or grandchildren may want it even if they do not have space to store it. I can tell you from my experience that is a rare occurrence. The latest generation of twenty and thirty-somethings are living different lives with fewer things and smaller homes. It never hurts to ask the question“do you want this” but if the answer is no, then its time to let go.

If any of these five things sound like they are keeping you from living in an organized clutter free space its time to make a change and its one you will never REGRET!